I have to agree with Diana, Jeannie - even though I didn't say so in my previous post.

Jeannie, my honest opinion.....RUN A MILE!!!    it might not be what you want to hear, but believe me you won't find happiness there, i'm pretty sure of that!  hope this doesn't offend you, but I gotta say my piece on this, you'll get hurt!

Jeannie, I have to go along with your other caring friends here on POE.  When you said you had met someone new, I thought you meant locally, in person.  I concur with everyone that you should be very cautious.  It's fine to be penpals with people, but real lasting relationships take time, and forgive me but this feels like a rebound after Paul.  We all want to be loved by someone special, and I believe God has someone in mind for you.  I would like to see you become your own biggest fan and love the person you are, with or without a man in your life.  I can tell you, I've been there.  Only in recent years did I finally learn to appreciate myself and all the wonderful aspects of my life that have nothing to do with having a boyfriend or husband or even a date for New Year's Eve. All my adult life prior to that I felt that I needed a man to complete my life, to complete me.  I thought I wasn't happy without a man.  It took two failed marriages and countless messed up relationships to embrace the person I was as an individual - not as part of a couple.  Once I did, I can't tell you how content and at peace and happy I was at last.  Just when I accepted that I might be single the rest of my life and that I was okay with that, that's when I met Bruce.  I was not talking to men on line, I wasn't meeting men or being introduced to men or dating at all or even interested in dating.  So, I think perhaps when you stop looking for him, the right man will come along and find you, when you least expect it.

Barbara, you are an inspiration to us all.

Aw, shucks, Diana!  Thanks.  I do the best I can with what God gave me. 

Oh, and Jeannie, I forgot to tell you that I met Bruce when he started riding my commuter bus to work.  Best of luck to you!

Barbara always has the right thing for the right moment..